Monthly Archives: October 2013
When did motherhood become a contest?

Have you noticed how there are so many “experts” on being the perfect mom these days. I understand that there are some women who actually need some guidance on how to be parents. I just don’t understand why everyone thinks that their style of being a mom is better than someone else’s. What if, we all just stop for a second and realize that we are all different. Being different does not equate to someone being inferior or superior to another. Today’s focus is on “The Super Fit Mom”, because I am sick and tired of the fat shaming that I have been seeing on the internet.
The super Fit Mom
I get it, being fit is a great thing and we should strive to be healthy and fit. It is our responsibility as parents to set a good example for our children and I applaud all those moms who are able to balance it all.
1. The Duchess of Cambridge was already a petite woman, who also appeared to be physically fit prior to her getting pregnant. With that said, please don’t try to compare yourself to her if you don’t share the body shape and frame.
2. Models who get pregnant and shed all the weight they gain “overnight” , have to do so because their jobs depend on it and the same goes for any other female in show business.
3. We normal women should not be aspiring to look like those women. Yes they look beautiful and it all looks effortless and that is exactly what they would like us to believe. The reality is not as simple as some of them would like to admit. Most of them have personal trainers, who work with them while they are pregnant, they also have personal chefs, nannies, assistants and so on and so forth.
I am a mother of three, who prior to becoming a mom was physically fit. My priorities shifted a little bit after my children were born. I work out and made sincere efforts to eat right. Do I want to slim down to pre-babies days and wear clothes I haven’t worn in years? Yes, but I also have to be realistic with myself. I have a full-time job, no nannies, no trainers, full-time student and my health is not as great as it was years ago. I do the best that I can with what I have. I don’t strive to be anyone else but me.
I will be posting some more about my views on being a mom and why we should all give each other a break. No one is perfect, in fact it would be great to see moms admitting their faults once in a while.